I had someone comment privately to me on my last post. Just for the record, the last post was not a reflection on anything lacking from my friendships. I have great friends and wonderful people who are there for me and constantly work to keep our friendship going. The post was more on my idealistic thoughts of friendship. The trouble is me. These books and movies have put into my head ideas of friendship that in most cases aren't attainable. I'm so happy with my friends. Yes, I would love more time with them, but it was more of a reality check so that I can have the most meaningful friendship I can.
The commenter mentioned that the same was true with marriage. Heck yes it is! We read books and see movies that depict these wonderful relationships full of romance, picnics in the parks, walks on the beach. Fights are merely plot moving so you can get to the next romantic thing or jewelry buying scene.
Most of us know that marriage is work. Not just any work, but possibly the hardest work you do. Yes, raising kids is tough, but that's what makes marriage tougher. You stick marriage on the back burner. You forget that you have to work on it. Your kids deserve it.
Reality check...life is not the movies or your favorite fiction book. Life is some pretty darn fun hard work!
I need to go and read that post now! I've found it VERY interesting how my friendships have evolved through us all having children!
ReplyDeleteYou're so right and I completely get what you mean about friendships. I also get that same way when I watch a good movie and wish I had "that" kind of friendship or "that" kind of marriage. Marriage and friendship is hard work, esp when you're a mother of small kiddos. It's so hard to balance everything out and feel like everything is getting the time/nurturing it deserves!
ReplyDeleteI hope you enjoy yourself at the MOPS convention and that you come back refreshed!
P.S. Also wanna tell you thanks for writing the post on reminding ourselves to be content with what we have. I am SO with you on the minivan thing. Want one, NEED one bad, but can't afford it right now. Your post reminded me to be content with where I'm at right now. The Lord provides and I'm thankful for the blessings I already have. :)