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Monday, May 3, 2010

Be Still- Our family.

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Wow.  What a crazy last couple of weeks.  We have traveled and had visitors all while trying to figure out what it means to be a family of four.  We have needed to "be still" in our family.  My hubby mentioned one evening while on the way home from another event that we had to attend, that we needed to spend time as a family.  We were just doing the whole divide and conquer thing in our house.  We are both to blame.  We have lots to do (not all of it a priority, but we are working on that too) and so we will divide the boys up and get it done.  Hubby will take the older one to run errands or to do different things and I will keep the little one and get housework done.  If hubby comes home and both boys are hanging out, I will not even think twice about heading to the laundry room or the chore list to see what needs to be done.  The divide and conquer thing is only good for so long and pretty soon we need to "be still" in our family.

So, we are making an effort.  This morning hubby took the older one to make visits and run errands.  We are both expecting that this evening before hubby leaves for a meeting, that we will spend time as a family.  Either on the floor playing (me not folding laundry) or at the playground just hanging out.  Chores, phone calls, cleaning, thank you notes, and laundry can all wait.  As I have said before, my kids will not wait and they will grow up.  This is my time to be still.

I have to admit I keep thinking to myself "if I could just get everything done" then I would be able to be still in all of these areas I have talked about before.  That's not true and it's a lie I'm living if I keep thinking about it that way.  I posted here that they paint the Golden Gate Bridge everyday.  EVERYDAY.  It is never done.  Once they get to one side, they start over.  That's housekeeping I need to say to myself.  Once I clean the playroom, it will get dirty and unorganized.  Isn't that the point?  For my son to play in it?

Last week cafeAngelica posted about Mary & Martha.  It was a wake up call to me.  I have read the book Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World many times.  I know that I am a Martha.  I know that I need to find a balance.  Being a Martha isn't a bad thing, but it's making sure that I am a Mary in my life too.  So I have set out to find my "Mary"- in my family and in my spiritual life  I will always be a Martha, but God can work to find the balance if I let myself be open and still to it.  To hold myself accountable a few blogging buddies and I will be reading the book and discussing it through my comment section or on their own blogs.  I'm anxious to finish the first chapter and sit down with my bible to meditate on the questions at the end of the chapter.  But before that, I'm going to spend some "still" time with my family!

Being still with One Nutty Girl for today!

3 comments:

  1. I too am a Martha. I need to find my inner Mary. I ask her for intercession all the time, and know she walks beside me through motherhood. Thanks for sharing your uplifting words.

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  2. I know, it's that being 'still' on the INSIDE part that gets to me. Be encouraged - we're all working on it. You're in good company.

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  3. Everything you said here is so true! We will never be completely caught up with chores but the time we have with our families really is what's most precious. I've never read the book you mentioned but I may just have to check it out!

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